Category: Let's talk
If you knew your teen was homosexual, would you stop your teen from having sleepovers with people of the same sex?
No I would not stop that. If I had a gay son or daughter, the same rules would apply to them as my other kids. Gay or straight my teens would not be allowed to have their bf/gf stay over. Someone could say your gay kid might lie by claiming a bf/gf is "just a friend," but that is highly unlikely in a house run by parents who are accepting of their gay child.
You can't realistically stop them doing anything, whether they're in your house or otherwise. No, I wouldn't stop it, but I would try and talk to them about any implications there might be, and how they could stay safe if they were to be having sex. Obviously I'd say I'd rather they weren't, but you can't stop it. Look at how many teenagers get themselves pregnant. Can we stop that? No. So in m mind, there's not much difference.
I think sugar is right and from my own experience i know that when you say to somebody to stop doing something it's more likely that they are going to do it. They have to understand from their own mistakes otherwise they will never understand.
well, same rules should apply to a homosexual teen sleepover as a straight teen sleep over i.e. if your son is straight and is not allowed tohave girls over the same (no girls over) should apply for a lesbian daughter, it seems very "straight" (or gay) forward tome.
Hmm, this is something I've never thought about, so, to give my answer I'd have to talk with my husband about it, but I'll be sure to reply here when we've discussed it. *smile*
I would think, that the same rules woudl apply to my children regardless of sexual preference.
but, puggle, say you had a son, would be be allowed to have his friends (guy friends) sleep over when he's 14 say, if he's straiht .. would he be allowed then to have a girl friend sleep over at 14.
Now turn it around, if you knew he was gay, would you allow him to have a guy friend sleep over, I mean if what you are preventing is physical experimentation with your kids be they straight or gay you sort of must take the kids' sexual preference into consideration when laying down the rules .. ;) of course this leads to the bigger question .. should gays be allowed in the locker rooms, if that's ok then why is it not ok for straight men to go into the women's locker rooms .. it's both about exploring the objects of your affection.
I would advisde them on the dangers however, sex in my house, that's a scary prospect.that I might have to face eventually , so I'd do my best to make sure both were safe, if my son turns out be gay.
but is it a matter of preventing it from happening at all? or of pointing out the risks involved? by that token, at what age is it acceptable for your children to expect you to let them sleep in your house with their significant other? is it when they are married? remembering that your child may not get married till he or she is in the ir 30's even older. but by their late teens or early 20'ssurely they are still old enough to know the risks and importance of sleeping with someone? I think it's about open communication, and up to a point trusting your children's judgements. I think it isall about consistancy. I mean if you are going to let your child drink in your presents whtn they are under age, but not trust them to be sensible with their friends if they were to stay over. then isn['t that sending out 2 different messages to the child? all food for thought.
but is it a matter of preventing it from happening at all? or of pointing out the risks involved? by that token, at what age is it acceptable for your children to expect you to let them sleep in your house with their significant other? is it when they are married? remembering that your child may not get married till he or she is in the ir 30's even older. but by their late teens or early 20'ssurely they are still old enough to know the risks and importance of sleeping with someone? I think it's about open communication, and up to a point trusting your children's judgements. I think it isall about consistancy. I mean if you are going to let your child drink in your presents whtn they are under age, but not trust them to be sensible with their friends if they were to stay over. then isn['t that sending out 2 different messages to the child? all food for thought.
I'd rather my child was sleeping with people of the same gender as it, at least then it wouldn't get pregnant!
no, i definitely wouldn't stop my child from having friends over, be they gay, straight, whatever. not just cuz i myself am gay, but i'd lay down the rules, and inform them of the risks.
no i wouldn't and i am not just saying this because i am a lesbian. I think everyone has a right to have friends and maybe your daughters friends aren't bi.
No I wouldn't stop them.
i'm with B on this one. i wouldn't let my 13 year old son have his girlfriend sleep over. So why should my 13 year old daughter? if she did have a friend sleep over, they would sleep in different rooms. That is too young to be saying it's ok to mess around in my house. I know you can't stop them from doing it else where, but i'm not going to make it easier for them to do it. i also would not let my teen drink in my home or else where. There is an age limit and that's the law. why teach them at a young age it's ok to follow some rules, but not others? That age is very vulnerable, so they need to be tought RULES ARE RULES NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE>
my parent's were very strict with this. yes, i did go behind there back and do things i shouldn't have. what child don't. I know several parents that let there kids drink and have guys sleep over. those kids are the ones that grew up to not respect there parents. Drink all the time and are still doing drugs. The two that come to mind, had babies at a young age with the boys there parents let stay the night. and of course there no longer with them. they now say they wish there parents would have been stricter on them and not let the guys stay. They refuse to let there daughters boyfriends sleep over. i know your asking about a gay or lesbian son or daughter, but if you say it's ok for your lesbian daughter, your going to have a straight son wanting the same treatment. or the other way around a gay son having his boyfriends sleeping over, your straight daughter is going to think it unfair, and rightly so.
my opinion anyway.
i know this is an old topic, but it was brought back up and i see i never replied. lol